Push on

The task of the leader is to get his people from where they are to where they have not been.
~Henry Kissinger

Leadership. Who is a leader? Who is not? Is a manger of people a leader? This is a common misconception amongst a lot of people in our society. Namely in a work environment. Too many people think that them being a manager is being a leader. This holds not to be true.

Leadership is only gained and improved upon by experience. Weather being gained from taking part in a role that needs a leader. Or have it being very interactive with a lot of people to learn the people. When people do things because they want to do them for you, instead of because you told them to do it, you have successfully started being a leader to that specific person.

Keep in mind, we all will fail at some point in this process. Failure is a key to learning how not to do so. If you grab a snakes rattle 4 times and he doesn't bite you, but on the 5th time he does, don't grab 5 times. You failed the first time but now you know the limits.

My personal experience is a little phrase that helps me in everyday situation of getting people to do things for you.  "Ask, Tell, Yell" is the motto I do my daily tasks to get people to do things. Also, make them understand that as your worker/employee, they have actual value, and that they are an asset. Reward them, but not often. Small compliments on their ethics and productivity help people feel a lot better about themselves and make them see that they are not just another person working for "the man."

A key thing also is to never promise things you can not, or will not deliver. When one does not deliver, they lose trust. Earning respect from your co-workers, then earn their trust and maintain it! We often strive too hard to gain peoples trust, when the small things are what matter. Punishing people (in whatever form) is too often used. Break down, but rebuild.